What Do You Want to Get Out of Life? A Step-by-Step Blueprint for Finding Purpose and Pursuing Passion

What Do You Want to Get Out of Life? A Step-by-Step Blueprint for Finding Purpose and Pursuing Passion

Introduction

Have you ever stopped and seriously asked yourself: What do I really want to get out of life? It’s a simple question with no simple answer. For many, that question never fully gets answered. We chase money, security, approval, or fleeting moments of happiness, but few of us pause long enough to define our life’s direction. It’s no wonder we often feel unfulfilled, lost, or stuck. If this sounds like you, take comfort—you’re not alone. The vast majority of people go through life confused, unclear about their true desires, uncertain where to begin, and unsure how to even identify what they really want.

We live in a world brimming with opportunities, distractions, and endless possibilities. But this abundance often leads to overwhelm, not clarity. The pressure to “figure it out” can feel crushing, especially when everyone else seems to be confidently charging toward a goal. The truth is, most people are just as unsure as you. But that’s where this article comes in. This is not a vague pep talk or motivational fluff—it’s a concrete blueprint designed to help you figure out what you want out of life and how to get it.

First, we’ll walk through a 15-question exercise to help you define what you love, what you’re good at, and what energizes you. This section is all about discovery—turning confusion into clarity by looking inward and recognizing the passions and values that already live within you.

Second, we’ll break down a step-by-step roadmap on how to pursue what you love. Whether it’s a career, a cause, a lifestyle, or a legacy, we’ll explore how to identify opportunities, develop a plan, and overcome the fear and doubt that inevitably arise. Our goal is to help you move from confusion to confidence—one actionable step at a time.

So if you’ve ever felt stuck, bored, anxious, or like your life is being lived on autopilot, this is your wake-up call. It’s time to stop drifting and start defining. There is a unique purpose and path waiting for you, but it starts with doing the work, first to uncover what drives you, and second to go after it with intention.

Let’s begin.

Part 1: Define What You Want with These 15 Self-Discovery Questions

What activities make you lose track of time?
What subjects or hobbies did you love as a child?
If money were no object, how would you spend your days?
What topics do you find yourself reading or talking about the most?
What would you still do even if you never got paid for it?
Who do you admire, and what about their life inspires you?
What are you naturally good at, without much effort?
When have you felt most fulfilled or proud of yourself?
What kind of environment makes you feel alive—quiet, creative, fast-paced, collaborative?
What frustrates you the most in the world (this can point to your calling)?
What would your ideal lifestyle look like—where would you live, how would your day unfold?
What compliments do you receive most often from others?
What fears keep you from pursuing what you love?
What problems would you love to solve?
If your life ended a year from now, what would you regret not having done?

Write your answers down. Patterns will begin to emerge. Your passions will reveal themselves when you see the overlap between what you love, what you’re good at, and what matters to you. That intersection is often referred to as your “zone of genius.”

Part 2: Your Opportunity Blueprint—How to Get What You Want

Step 1: Clarify Your Vision

·         Use the answers to your questionnaire to write a personal mission statement.

·         Define your core values—what matters to you most in life.

·         Choose 1-3 specific goals aligned with your mission. Be clear and measurable.

Step 2: Identify Opportunity Paths

·         Research industries, job roles, or causes that match your values and interests.

·         Talk to people already doing what you aspire to do.

·         Explore both traditional paths (careers, degrees) and unconventional ones (freelance, startups, travel, volunteering).

Step 3: Build the Skills

·         Make a list of the skills, experiences, and credentials you need to succeed.

·         Enroll in online courses, join local workshops, or find a mentor.

·         Start small: volunteer, intern, or freelance in your field of interest.

Step 4: Create a Support System

·         Surround yourself with people who believe in your vision.

·         Join online communities, accountability groups, or masterminds.

·         Share your goals publicly—it increases your chance of follow-through.

Step 5: Take Consistent Action

·         Break big goals into weekly tasks and track progress.

·         Use the 80/20 rule: Focus 80% of your time on the 20% of actions that yield results.

·         Accept that failure is part of the journey. Learn, adjust, and keep going.

Step 6: Manage Your Mindset

·         Journal daily to track thoughts, progress, and gratitude.

·         Challenge limiting beliefs and replace them with empowering truths.

·         Visualize your success and practice affirmations that reinforce your path.

Step 7: Evaluate and Adjust

·         Set monthly or quarterly check-ins to measure your growth.

·         Be honest: If something no longer aligns with your mission, pivot.

·         Success is iterative—it evolves as you evolve.

Step 8: Give Back

• Find a way to use your gifts to serve others.
• Teaching, mentoring, or giving back keeps you grounded and inspired.
• Contribution is often the final step to lasting fulfillment.

Step 9: Pep Talk for the Weary and the Stuck—Breaking Free from Procrastination and Apathy

Let’s be honest—many people don’t move forward in life because deep down, they’re tired. Not physically tired, though that may be part of it. They’re mentally exhausted, emotionally drained, and spiritually stagnant. They’ve dreamed for so long but taken so little action that even their deepest desires feel like distant fantasies. If this sounds familiar, this section is for you.

Here’s a truth that may sting: If you truly wanted something bad enough, you’d already be chasing it. The hard part isn’t identifying what you want—it’s caring enough to overcome the gravity of comfort. That gravitational pull—the one that whispers, “You’re fine where you are,” “Tomorrow will be better,” or “Maybe later”—is the silent killer of purpose. It doesn’t scream; it soothes. And that’s what makes it dangerous.

People often confuse being content with being happy. But there’s a massive difference. Contentment is neutral. It’s tolerating your circumstances because they’re not bad enough to demand change. Happiness, on the other hand, is joy, fulfillment, purpose, and meaning. It’s waking up with anticipation, not dread. And the only path from contentment to happiness is action.

If you’ve been procrastinating on your dream, here’s your wake-up call: you are not lazy. You are likely scared, overwhelmed, or uncertain. But those are not character flaws—they are conditions. And conditions can change. You have the power to rise above them. You have more inside of you than your current habits reflect.

Here’s how to shake yourself out of the haze:

1.     Get Mad (in a Good Way). Anger has a purpose when used constructively. Get mad at your stagnation. Get tired of settling. Channel that emotion into momentum. Use it to say, “I’ve had enough. I’m not wasting another day.”

2.     Start Micro-Small. You don’t need to revolutionize your life overnight. Just clean your desk. Make your bed. Write one paragraph. Go on a 10-minute walk. Small wins breed bigger wins. Don’t wait to feel ready. Readiness is a byproduct of action.

3.     Visualize the Regret. Fast forward five years. Nothing has changed. You’re still in the same spot. Still dreaming. Still stuck. How does that make you feel? That pain of imagined regret can be more powerful than the hope of gain. Use it.

4.     Find a Trigger. Create a daily reminder—an alarm, a sticky note, a quote on your mirror—that sparks action. Consistency begins with memory. Trigger your brain to expect motion.

5.     Repeat This Mantra. “One step is enough.” Don’t think about the mountaintop. Just the next foothold. You don’t need a ten-year plan. You need a ten-minute commitment.

6.     Make It Personal: Tie your goals to a bigger why. Want to get fit? Make it about being there for your kids. Want to change careers? Make it about making your life count. Shallow goals fade. Deep motivations endure.

7.     Embrace the Messy Middle. It won’t be linear. You’ll stop and start. You’ll feel like quitting. That’s normal. The difference between winners and quitters is not talent—it’s getting back up. Again and again.

8.     Talk to Someone. Don’t suffer in silence. Find a mentor, a coach, or a friend who can challenge you, encourage you, and walk with you. Isolation is a dream-killer. Community is fuel.

9.     Forgive Yourself. You’ve wasted time. So what? Everyone has. What matters is what you do now. Release the shame. It has no power unless you let it live in your mind rent-free.

10.   Do It Even When You Don’t Feel Like It. Feelings are unreliable. Action leads, and feelings follow. You won’t always feel inspired. But if you move anyway, you’ll eventually feel empowered.

You don’t need perfect conditions. You need a decision. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Today.

Make the call. Open the laptop. Start the draft. Sign up for the course. Set the alarm. Say the prayer. Begin again.

Because here’s the deal: No one is coming to rescue you. No one is going to hand you purpose on a silver platter. The magic you seek isn’t in some future event—it’s in motion. In trying. In the beginning.

You are not alone. You are not broken. But you are the only one who can decide that enough is enough.

The path you want is real. It’s there. You just have to get up and take that first step toward it.

This is your life. And it’s time to live it on purpose.

Let’s go.

Conclusion

Most people wander through life wondering what they’re supposed to do. They keep waiting for some grand sign, a push from the universe, or for things to just “click.” But clarity rarely comes from waiting—it comes from doing. It comes from reflection, decision, and forward momentum. If you’ve read this far, you’ve already taken the first step: you’re searching. You’re willing to do the work. And that’s more than most ever do.

Life isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience. What lights someone else up may bore you to tears. And that’s okay. The key to fulfillment isn’t in chasing what looks good on paper—it’s in finding what feels right in your soul. You were made with purpose. Your job is to discover it, define it, and pursue it relentlessly.

So, what do you want out of life? Do you want peace, purpose, creativity, success, security, freedom, family, fame, service, or love? Maybe all of the above. Whatever it is, you have the power to create it. But it starts with asking the right questions, listening to your own voice, and taking deliberate, brave steps toward the life you deserve.

This is your life. Don’t live it confused. Don’t drift. Don’t wait. Start today—ask, answer, plan, act, adjust. And above all, believe: your best life is not behind you. It’s waiting for you to rise and meet it.

Start now. You are worth the effort.

I can help you find your purpose and put you on the path of your choosing—one that brings joy, peace, and happiness. Don’t delay—why put off until tomorrow that which you can start today? Contact me now at coachbillconley@gmail.com. Let’s build your future together.

 

Daisy the Duckling Does Her Homework - A Children's Story

Daisy the Duckling Does Her Homework

By Bill Conley

Moral of the Story:

Doing your homework on your own helps you grow smarter, stronger, and more confident in what you can do. Asking for help is okay when you're truly stuck, but letting others do the work for you means missing out on your own learning. You are more capable than you think, and each time you finish something by yourself, you build pride and independence. Homework is your responsibility, and doing it on your own shows that you're ready to take on big things, one step at a time.

In the pondside village of Lilypad Lane, there lived a clever little duckling named Daisy.

Daisy loved school. She loved her teacher, her friends, and especially the art corner.

But when it came to homework, Daisy had a bad habit.

Every time she was given an assignment, she’d flap home and ask, “Mom, can you help me?”

Now, asking for help isn’t a bad thing—but Daisy didn’t just ask for help. She asked her mom to read the directions, solve the math, and even write out sentences.

Her mom would try to guide her, but Daisy always said, “It’s too hard. Just tell me the answer!”

One evening, Daisy was assigned a worksheet on animal habitats. She came home, tossed her backpack on the floor, and said, “Mom! Can you do this part for me? I don’t get it.”

Mom picked up the paper and said gently, “I’ll help you—but I won’t do it for you.”

“But I don’t know where frogs live!” Daisy pouted.

Mom smiled. “Yes, you do. Where did we see frogs yesterday?”

“In the pond,” Daisy mumbled.

“Exactly. You just needed to try.”

Daisy sighed and filled in the answer—"pond."

It wasn’t so bad.

But the next night, when math homework came home, Daisy didn’t even look at the first problem.

“Mom, I can’t do this. What’s 5 + 7?”

Mom handed the pencil back. “You try first. I’ll check it after.”

Daisy stared at the numbers. Her head felt foggy. She wanted to give up.

But then she remembered something her teacher always said: "Your brain grows every time you struggle a little."

So Daisy counted on her wings… “Five… plus seven…”

“Twelve!” she shouted.

Mom smiled. “See? You didn’t need me to tell you. You figured it out all by yourself.”

The next day in class, the teacher handed Daisy back her worksheet with a shiny star at the top.

“Great effort!” it read. “You’re learning to think for yourself.”

Daisy blushed with pride.

That afternoon, she sat down to do her spelling assignment. She tried writing every word before asking for help. When she wasn’t sure, she looked it up in her word list or sounded it out.

She only asked Mom for help twice—and only after she had truly tried.

By the end of the week, something amazing happened.

Homework didn’t feel so scary anymore.

Daisy realized she didn’t need someone to do her work—she just needed to believe in herself enough to try.

One night, when her little brother Dipper waddled up and said, “Can you do my drawing for me?” Daisy shook her head.

“Nope. I’ll help you get started, but you need to do your own work. That’s how you learn.”

Dipper pouted. “But it’s hard.”

Daisy smiled. “So was mine. But I did it. And guess what? You can too.”

From that day on, Daisy became known as the Homework Hero of Lilypad Lane. She still asked for help when she really needed it—but not before giving it her very best shot.

She felt smarter, stronger, and more grown-up than ever.

And every time she saw a blank page, she didn’t think “I can’t”—she thought, “I can do this… on my own.”

Moral Poem to End the Story:

Try your best before you seek,
Help from others when answers seem bleak.
You’re clever, capable, and smart—
Let your homework show your brilliant heart!

 

This Summer, Let’s Make Storytime Magical! 📚✨ - A Children's Challenge, Summer reading adventure.

This Summer, Let’s Make Storytime Magical! 📚✨

While Vice President Vance’s wife, Usha Vance, is on a mission to inspire kids to read more this summer, I’ve taken on a mission of my own—to create a world of stories for them to enjoy.

I set a personal goal to write 180 original children’s stories in 180 days—and today is Day 155. With just a few weeks left, I’m on pace to complete this incredible journey by the end of June!

Each story is designed to entertain, inspire, and teach valuable life lessons—perfect for young readers and families to enjoy together.

🌟 You're invited to read along!
Visit my blog to explore all 155 stories already posted—there’s a new adventure waiting every day!
📖 bcunleashed.blogspot.com

Let’s make this summer one to remember—one story at a time.

— Bill Conley
Author & Certified Life Coach

 

Tilly the Turtle Learns the Bedtime Routine - A Children's Story

Tilly the Turtle Learns the Bedtime Routine

By Bill Conley

Moral of the Story:

Going to bed on time is one of the smartest and healthiest habits you can build. When you listen to your parents, turn off electronics, and follow a calming bedtime routine, your body and mind get the rest they need to grow, learn, and feel great. A good night’s sleep helps you wake up refreshed, happy, and ready for a new day. Taking responsibility for brushing your teeth and sticking to bedtime shows you are growing up and learning to take care of yourself.

In the peaceful pond of Willow Glen lived a slow but clever turtle named Tilly.

Tilly loved splashing in the water, racing across lily pads, and reading books with her mom.

But when bedtime came around, Tilly had one problem:
She never wanted to go to bed.

“Tilly,” her mom would call, “time to brush your teeth and get ready for bed!”

“Five more minutes!” Tilly would beg, her eyes glued to her little turtle tablet.

Her dad would chime in, “Tilly, we said no electronics before bed.”

“But I’m almost done watching my show!” she pouted.

Her parents would sigh, reminding her that screens and late nights weren’t good for a growing turtle. But Tilly didn’t think it was a big deal—until one day, it was.

That morning, Tilly woke up grumpy.
Her eyes were puffy.
Her shell felt heavy.
And she forgot her spelling words.

At school, she yawned so much that her teacher finally asked, “Tilly, did you get enough sleep last night?”

“Not really,” she mumbled.

When she got home, her mom gently sat beside her. “Sweetheart, your body and brain need rest—just like the pond needs quiet after the sun goes down.”

“But I don’t feel tired when you say it’s bedtime,” Tilly argued.

“That’s why we have routines,” her dad said. “So even if you don’t feel tired yet, your body learns when it’s time to rest.”

That night, her parents started something new.

First, they had dinner together with no screens at the table.

Then Tilly brushed her teeth—top and bottom, nice and slow—until they sparkled.

Next, her mom read her a story while she snuggled into her cozy blanket.

Then, Mom handed her a small book. “Would you like to try reading one page tonight?”

Tilly nodded. She sounded out the words slowly, and when she reached the end of the page, she smiled.

“I did it,” she whispered.

“Now close your eyes and let your mind dream,” Mom said softly, kissing her forehead.

Tilly fell asleep within minutes.

The next morning, she woke up before her parents, feeling happy and full of energy.

At school, she raised her hand more.
She remembered her spelling.
And during recess, she outran every turtle and frog in sight.

That night, when her mom said, “Time for bed,” Tilly didn’t argue.

She brushed her teeth without a reminder.

She turned off her tablet and tucked it away in a drawer.
“No screens in my room anymore,” she said proudly.

Mom smiled. “You’re learning to care for yourself. That’s what responsible turtles do.”

After storytime, Tilly read two pages on her own and drifted off into sweet dreams.

From that day on, Tilly became known as the Best Sleeper in Willow Glen.

She went to bed early, woke up early, and took on every new day with a smile.

Her friends asked, “How are you always so cheerful?”

Tilly would say, “I go to bed on time, brush my teeth, and stay away from screens at night. It makes all the difference!”

Moral Poem to End the Story:

Brush your teeth and turn screens off,
Climb in bed, no need to scoff.
A rested mind is strong and bright—
So snuggle in and sleep all night!

 

Finn the Fox Learns the Power of Self-Worth - A Children's Story

Finn the Fox Learns the Power of Self-Worth

By Bill Conley

Moral of the Story:

You are one of a kind—there is no one else exactly like you. When you compare yourself to others, you can forget how special and valuable you already are. Just like a diamond, every person has a unique shine, shape, and beauty that no one else can copy. Real confidence begins when you stop comparing and start believing that who you are is more than enough.

In the gentle woods of Bright Leaf Forest lived a clever little fox named Finn.

Finn had warm orange fur, a quick wit, and a wild imagination that made his stories sparkle like starlight.

He loved drawing comics, inventing silly games, and asking the most curious questions.

But lately, Finn didn’t feel very special.

At school, he watched his friends shine in different ways.

Milo the Moose could run like the wind and always won races.

Olive the Owl knew every answer in class and always raised her wing first.

Daisy the Deer could sing like a dream and was the star of every performance.

And Finn? He felt like the quiet fox in the background.

“I wish I were more like them,” Finn whispered one day, hiding his sketchpad inside his desk.

He tried joining Milo’s race team but kept coming in last.

He read every book Olive recommended but got nervous when called on.

He even tried singing like Daisy, but his voice cracked and squeaked.

“Why can’t I be good at anything?” he sighed, slumping in his chair.

His teacher, Miss Badger, noticed Finn’s spark starting to fade.

“You okay, Finn?” she asked gently.

He shrugged. “I’m just not like the others.”

Miss Badger leaned down. “That’s because you’re not supposed to be. You’re not a copy—you’re an original.”

But Finn didn’t feel original. He felt like a mistake.

That evening, he sat at his window, looking at the stars.

He thought, Milo is fast. Olive is smart. Daisy is talented. What am I?

His mom walked in with warm cocoa.

“You seem quiet tonight,” she said.

Finn looked down. “I just wish I was more like… everyone else.”

His mom sat beside him. “Finn, do you know what makes a diamond valuable?”

He shrugged. “Because it sparkles?”

“No,” she said with a smile. “Because no two are the same. Each one is cut a little differently. They shine in their own way.”

Finn blinked.

“You are like a diamond,” she continued. “One of a kind. That’s what makes you special. You don’t need to shine like Daisy, or think like Olive, or run like Milo. You have your own shine.”

Finn’s eyes lit up just a little. “But… what if no one sees it?”

“They will,” she said. “As long as you see it first.”

The next day at school, Finn didn’t try to beat Milo in running.

He didn’t try to out-answer Olive or out-sing Daisy.

Instead, he opened his sketchpad, the one he had hidden for weeks.

He drew a comic about three amazing animals: a strong moose, a wise owl, and a talented deer, and a fox who helped each one in a different way.

He made them laugh. He reminded them of what mattered. He brought them together.

When the comic was done, Finn quietly placed it on the class display board.

He didn’t sign his name.

He just waited.

At lunch, he heard a buzz of excitement.

“Did you see the new comic?”

“It’s hilarious!”

“I love how the fox helps everyone—he’s the real hero!”

Milo pointed. “Who drew this?”

Finn hesitated… then slowly raised his paw.

“I did,” he said.

Everyone stared.

Then Milo clapped. Olive grinned. Daisy hugged him.

“This is amazing!” Daisy said. “You’re so creative, Finn!”

Finn smiled—not because they liked it, but because he had liked making it.

For the first time in a long while, Finn felt full. Full of pride, joy, and something else too… belief.

Belief in himself.

From that day on, Finn stopped comparing.

He started celebrating.

He celebrated his drawings. His kindness. His thoughtful heart.

He made a new comic each week, featuring his classmates' strengths—and his own.

He still played games with Milo, but he didn’t try to be faster. He just had fun.

He read with Olive, not to impress, but because he loved learning.

He sang with Daisy—not onstage, but around the lunch table, just for laughs.

Miss Badger told the class, “True greatness isn’t about being the best—it’s about being your best self.”

Finn believed it now. Because he saw it every time he looked in the mirror.

At the end of the school year, the class held a celebration.

Each student received an award.

When it was Finn’s turn, Miss Badger announced, “This year’s Diamond Heart Award goes to Finn the Fox—for discovering the power of self-worth and reminding us all to believe in who we are.”

The class stood and clapped.

Finn stepped forward, not shy or nervous, but confident.

“Thank you,” he said. “I used to think I had to be like everyone else. But now I know, being me is enough. We’re all different—and that’s what makes us shine.”

The crowd cheered. Miss Badger wiped a tear.

That night, Finn curled into his bed with his sketchpad on his chest.

He looked out the window at the stars again.

This time, he didn’t wish to be someone else.

He whispered softly, “I am one of a kind. I’m not supposed to be like anyone else.”

And with a proud smile, he added, “And that’s what makes me… Finn the Great.”

Moral Poem to End the Story:

You are a diamond, bright and rare,
No one else is quite like you anywhere.
Don’t compare—just do your part,
Shine with pride and a loving heart.