Confront those whom you believe are part
of the problem and who may be able to influence change. Come to them with
solutions, not complaints or criticism.
If they don’t listen or even begin to
understand, repeat this process until you have exhausted every means possible
to solicit change.
If after this process no changes are being
made, you need to make a decision to stay or leave.
Don’t give up easily; anything of value is
worth working for, some say fighting for, and nothing comes easy. Never give up
or give in!
Believe in yourself!
If you decide to stay in what you perceive
to be a difficult situation, attempt through your actions to be a positive
influence for change.
Don’t grumble, argue, complain, or speak
negatively of your superiors or those in authority.
If you decide to leave, do so without
fanfare.
Do not speak ill of any of those you are
leaving behind. Never, ever burn a bridge.
In life, our choices may appear to be
limited and controlled; however, we still have a choice of how we react,
behave, think, and feel.
We make that choice; NO ONE makes that
choice for us.
NO ONE forces us to think or feel a
certain way.
Our attitude about anything is ours; we
need to take personal ownership of our feelings and our attitude about life.
WE CHOOSE our feelings; they are not
CHOSEN FOR US! No one is holding a gun to your head and telling you to feel a
certain way.
If you don't like something, do something
about that which you don’t like; make a difference, make a change. Even if it
is a change in your outlook – your attitude.
It is better to be an instrument of change
than a tool of destruction. It is better to be positive than negative,
optimistic versus pessimistic.
Be careful never to hurt another human
being's feelings intentionally.
Remember all those around you have
feelings too.
Do not use words to inflame an already
heated situation.
Hold your tongue; do not fall into the
trap or temptation of speaking before you have carefully weighed the
consequences of your words.
Life is too short to battle over things or
events that are temporary, here today – gone tomorrow!
Don’t let others bait you into a needless
debate over nothing or over things you have no control over – such as a sports
team, sporting event, the government as a whole, our tax laws, our laws in
general.
Don’t get all worked up over things you
can’t change or don’t have any influence or control over.
Ignore these moments in life and move on.
Count your blessings and always give
thanks to the Lord for every situation or circumstance you find yourself in.
Flee from temptation or sin; don’t put
yourself in compromising situations.
Pray to the Lord for discernment and help
to recognize situations that are not positive and good.
Always defend your love for the Lord.
Anything you believe is of no one else’s
business unless you make it their business.
If you don’t want to fuel controversy,
keep your thoughts, opinions, and beliefs to yourself.
Every time you open your mouth, you are
opening yourself up to judgment or debate.
Judgment leads to debate, debate leads to
controversy, controversy leads to arguments, arguments lead to fights, fights
lead to war, and war leads to death.
All of this happens because people have
varying opinions, beliefs, values, thoughts, and understanding about life.
People also live in survivor mode and desire to carry out their own agenda.
Conflict and contention are the result of
dissimilar thoughts, ideas, beliefs, and opinions.
The Lord has told us to love our neighbor
as ourselves.
Allow others the freedom to express
themselves without you judging them.
If you want to avoid contention, be
careful of what you say and around whom you say it. Be careful not to offend
others by purposely taking a varying opinion just to cause an argument or
debate. This will only lead to hurt feelings. Don’t presume you know how
another person thinks or feels; this too will only lead to misunderstandings.
Don’t believe that everyone has to think the way you do.
Allow others to think and feel however
they would like.
It is better to remain silent than to open
your mouth and start a battle.
Silence is golden!
Marriage is certainly an exception in most
cases. You should be able to express yourself without reprisal, judgment, or
fear. Two people who are married should be able to express themselves openly,
honestly, truthfully without fear that they are being offensive.
Remember with time, opinions, beliefs, and
ideas about certain things change.
Don’t get caught up in needless discussion
about things or events that happened in the past.
Remember, one act is worth thousands of
words.
Let your actions do the talking, not your
mouth.
If you want to change something, start
acting as though the change has already taken place and see how quickly that
change will actually be implemented.
Remember life is never fair; there will
always be people who will be acting out of selfish desires, greed,
self-centeredness, narcissism, and their own agenda. They typically don’t even
know that you exist; you have rights and feelings too, and they typically don’t
care. They are caught up in their own little world, and you are simply a means
to their end. If they no longer need you, they will discard you faster than a
used napkin.
There will always be people who are not
acting or behaving fairly; avoid them if the situation gets uncomfortable.
Some people are users. They will use you
to get what they want. When they are done getting what they want from you or no
longer need you, they will exit the situation.
This is what the Lord shared with me today
as I was walking. I just start out walking and praying, and as I am praying, I
ask the Lord for inspiration and guidance. Sometimes I get nothing, and my mind
wanders on a variety of topics. Other times he gives me a clear picture of what
he would like me to write about.
The important thing to remember is that I
am only a man, a sinner no less. I am not perfect, and my writing is not an
absolute direct revelation from the Lord. It is filled with my own personal
experiences.
I love you, Lord, and I thank you for this
bit of inspiration. I do appreciate you working through the Holy Spirit to
guide me in my thoughts. Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ, I give you the
glory, honor, and praise. I humble myself before you.
Amen.