Life is filled with Choices

Life is filled with choices, we all have them, we all make them.  What makes one choice any more relevant than a another is a matter of perspective, your perspective, not others.  What I find is that there are any number of people who want to define, not help define, but to define the outcomes of your life by their own personal experience, not yours.  To understand this a little better take the situation of a recently divorced individual who is out in the dating for the first time in a number of years.  His dates are instructing him that since he is newly divorced that he should take his time, play the field, not commit to anyone, develop a new set of single friendships, that he is not ready for another relationship, take your time and come to know who you are again, just to mention a few.  As you can see his dates are full of pearls of wisdom from their perspective.  There past experiences in life and choices they have made provide them with what they believe to be a superior knowledge base on which to proceed in life and relationships.  The problem with this is it is from their perspective, their life experiences and their prior choices.  This totally negates the person and they judge that person starting with how long they have been divorced and attempt for their own personal gain to pigeon hole that person so that they may know how to deal with them.

This is wrong on so many levels the first being that it inhibits their relationship and the potential development of a friendship based on false assumptions.  No one has lived your life and no one has the right to determine the outcome of your life and no one can tell you how you live your life.  Your life experiences, your choices, your goals, dreams and ambitions are yours and yours alone.  More away from people who judge you based on their set of life experiences and who do not allow you to be the person you are with full acceptance and appreciation.

Secondly, the ebbs and flows of life change with the wind, what is valid and relevant in today's world, may not be valid or relevant tomorrow.  So when others view you through their prisim of life, it is done from a perspective relevant for today.