10 tips To Help Guide Your Life
& Make It Amazing
Life can be difficult and confusing. But it
doesn’t have to be if we think before we act. These 10 simple principles
can help make decisions, whether they be big or small.
1) Do I need that? Most of us purchase items that we
don't need. But what would happen if you control your wants? The answer is that
you’d probably have a lot more money and time! So when you are shopping, ask
yourself if you really need that. This principle isn’t limited to just
purchases. It can include a move, a new job, a relationship, vacation, or most
anything. This is just a great decision-making question (which is why I listed
it first).
2) Is that the best you can
do? I love this
question and use it almost every day. When purchasing items where I believe
there may be a little wiggle room in the price, I simply ask the clerk: “Is
that the best you can do?” These seven words could save you loads of
money. Don't be afraid to ask and don't ask timidly. Over the past 30 years,
this question has literally saved me hundreds of thousands of dollars.
3) Is it time? As in… Is it time to lose weight?
Is it time to move? Is it time to get married again? Is it time to buy a new
car? This question requires you to think about a decision that needs to
be made. Once answered, it’s time to act. If the answer is yes, it is
time, then have you thought it through thoroughly? If you have, then go for it
and don't slow down until it is complete.
4) Does it really matter? Well, does it? Be honest! Look
back at your previous relationship and think about the things that bothered you
about your former spouse. How many of those things really mattered? This question
allows you to take a moment to contemplate what is really important and to pick
your battles wisely.
5) Think before you speak. We all need a reminder that words
have consequences. That is why it is so important that you take a moment to
think before you speak. We have all heard this before, but how many of us
put this into practice on a daily basis? So much of what we say just
comes out of our mouth without thought. By taking a moment to think through
what you are about to say allows you to contemplate about the impact of your
words. Because once a word is spoken, you cannot take it back.
6) Can I afford it? This is a good question to ask
yourself before many of the purchases you make. This will impact nothing less
than your financial security. That’s pretty important, don’t you think?
If you simply take the time to think about a purchase, you’ll almost certainly
end up buying a lot less. Because unless you hit the lottery, chances are many
of the things you’re buying aren’t really something you can (or should) afford.
Just because you see something you want, doesn't mean it is wise to buy.
7) Stay on track. Once you have decided to do
something, stay on track. Outline what needs to get done and then do it. Stay
focused and motivated. Remind yourself of the importance of accomplishing what
you have set out to achieve. Staying on track requires discipline,
willpower and inner strength. Easier said than done, no doubt. But I constantly
remind myself of my goals and then throughout my day, I ask myself if I am on
track. It’s an important gut-check and it helps.
8) Win the argument, lose the
battle? How
many of us have won an argument yet lost the battle? Not so smart, is it? Do
you always have to be right? In the long run, is it more important to be right
than to be happy? What difference does it make who is right? How does
being right affect your relationships? Most times, it makes no difference at
all other stirring up contention. If you remind yourself that you don't always
have to be right, your relationships will be much happier and peaceful. Sounds
nice, doesn’t it?
9) Who is it about? Is it about you or someone
else? Is it about your children? Your family? The school? Your church?
The community? Ask yourself why and for whom are you doing something? Sometimes
we spend more time trying to please others at our own expense and to our own
peril. Throughout your day, ask yourself who you are doing this for?
Knowing why you do what you do will provide you with greater clarity and, at
the end of the day, greater happiness.
10) Love unconditionally. Love without expecting anything
in return. Love without placing conditions on your love. Love as though you
were giving a gift and your only desire is to see the expression on another's
face. Love selflessly. Love as you want to be loved. When you love others in
pure ways as these, love will flow back to you just as you have given it.
These 10 phrases require that you spend a lot
of time talking to yourself (though hopefully not out loud among crowds of
people!) and taking time to reflect on what is important to you. Many of us go
throughout our day not taking the time to think, we just react moment by moment
to events that happen throughout the day. It’s not a great way to make good
decisions, is it? If you remember these principles and questions, they’ll help
guide you in achieving a life of greater meaning with less confusion and
greater clarity.
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