Honor Your Commitments

Here is a little snippet of an E book I wrote on honoring your commitments. 

The bottom line:  Heavenly Father wants all us to honor our commitments with one another.  When we don't we live in darkness (we are following Satan), when we do, we are live in and are guided by the light (We are following Jesus).  

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Wouldn’t it seem logical?

It sounds so logical (marked by consistent reasoning, reasonable, rational) that each of us would desire to have a golden reputation, to be a person others could always count on, a person who was trusted, respected, revered (to regard with great devotion or respect), a person known to be able to get the job done, done right, done on time, done professionally, a person others could always count on, depend on, come to in a time of need. A person who never lied, fabricated, rationalized, justified, wavered, told the truth in all circumstances (tells it like it is) didn't mince words, deceive, confuse, distort or misguide. It seems logical to tell the truth and never lie under every circumstance. So why don’t we do it? Why do we lie? Fall down on our word, disappoint others, leave others waiting for us, don't finish what we have started, and mislead people into believing what is not true as we rationalize – we are just protecting their feelings. Why do we tell half-truths, only part of the story, or mix and mince our words to cover what really happened? Why do we need to choose our words carefully, be cautious of the impression we are attempting to cultivate? How can we justify after we have made a commitment, to not call, write, or meet with others? What makes us so special, the center of the universe that we believe we are entitled to lie, cheat, steal, misinform, disengage, justify and rationalize our every thought, word and action – of course as it relates to us?

People want to hear the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth

People want to associate with those that they can count on, who are responsible, trustworthy, dependable, honest, forthright, sincere, loving, kind, committed, genuine, straightforward, an open book, happy, positive, driven, successful, humble. So why aren’t we all these qualities listed above? Why do so many of us say we are going to call, do something, meet someone at a specified time, commit our self to a certain activity and then fail to honor that commitment? One word –

Darkness – having little or no light, dismal, gloomy, difficult to comprehend, obscure. Unenlightened, ignorant, absence of light. Wicked, sinister.

The opposite of darkness is..

Light– brightness, enlightenment, understanding. A prominent person.

1.    The illumination from a source of light. A way of looking or considering something.

People believe that their survival in this world is more important than those around them. Many of us commit to someone or something never intending to honor that commitment. What we are attempting to do is pacify, put off or delay another in order to confuse, distort, distract and give them a sense of false hope.

We go around telling others what we believe they want to hear. The problem with this is that we are not telling the truth, we are not honest with others and eventually the light will shine on our every thought, word and deed. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. People believe they are entitled to live in the darkness, to think about themselves first, to rationalize and justify their words and actions. The truth of the matter is, this couldn’t be further from the truth.

Can an honest man lie? If he lies he is NOT an honest man

Earlier I asked the question why men fail to honor their commitments. I then said one word,darkness. Many people never intend to honor their commitment when they made it. They may have had good intentions of honoring knowing full well that if they did not honor their commitment, they would be forgiven or that they can convincingly rationalize or justify the dishonoring of that commitment. Every time we do not honor our commitment, we tell a lie, a half-truth, people lose trust and faith in us. The effect of repeated acts of not honoring our word or our commitment to action leads to stronger and stronger feelings of distrust until eventually the other person has no trust in us at all, wants to flee the situation. Every act is cumulative, our actions may be forgiven, however they are never forgotten. When you dishonor your commitment by breaking it, others will look for a repeated behavior, for none of us enjoys being disrespected. Once we break any act, others will be on guard for the next time and the next time and the next time. Believe me when I say, they will keep track and learn what your true character, true nature is all about. Who and what you are will always come into the light. Others will come to know you for who and what you are, they will then make a decision to retain you as their friend, worker, teammate, husband or wife. For some of us it takes longer to make that decision.

Remember, it takes a fool to know a fool.

People who live in darkness have a tendency to surround themselves with others who reside in darkness. People who live in the light and truth surround themselves with others who live in the light and truth. Those who live in darkness and continue to live in darkness that surround themselves or associate with those who live in the light will have their darkness revealed.

We will always get what we deserve. Light for light, truth for truth, darkness for darkness, pain for pain, joy for joy, sorrow for sorrow, misery for misery.

They say that misery loves company

Remember to never bite off more than you can chew, don’t over commit, don’t ever make a commitment you are incapable, unable, unwilling, unmotivated, never intend to keep. Your best intentions may prove to be your worst nightmare. Where there is light there is an absence of darkness and where there is darkness there is an absence of light. You can’t have light and darkness at the same time. You can have varying degrees of light and darkness and that is how most of us live our lives, in varying degrees of light and darkness.

We started off earlier by discussing a person’s honor. Remember never to commit to that which you are incapable, unwilling, unable, don’t intend to honor. Be men and women of your word, live in truth and harmony, avoid conflict by living in the light, honor your commitments, build trusting relationships, structure your time and your life around serving others, never ever lie, tell a half truth, mince words or embellish or fabricate. Remember to always tell the truth, honor your commitments, be reliable, dependable and straightforward.

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William Conley Sound advice for life (Motivation coach and speaker, Entrepreneur, Life Coach, Author, Father)

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