What should we teach our children, What do the scriptures reveal about motherhood

The following is an excerpt from my book titled

 "As I was walking God was talking and this is what he said". 

This is the second post in a 6 part series covering the following topics....

Fatherhood (posted on December 15)

Teaching our Children (todays post)

Motherhood (todays post)

Absentee Fathers/Godless Fathers

Being equally yoked in marriage

The Love of the Lord

Doubt

Our choice of words one to another 

Several years ago I spent a great deal of time walking and as I walked I carried a notebook and a pen. I received what I know to be Devine inspiration from God. What you are about to read is what God would like us all to hear. I believe God gave me these words to write down so that I might share them with the world. God our Father in Heaven wants us all to know he Loves us and he also wants us all to know that Love is much more than never having to say you are sorry.  

Please take time to reflect on the words given to me by God our Father in Heaven. God has instructed me to tell you that he would like to ask each of you to take the time to read these multiple times until they really soak into your conscience. He knows that by doing this, you will change your life forever. You will also change the lives of everyone around you. 

Enjoy what God our Father in Heaven has provided me as a gift to you and to all those you know.

God Bless one and all.

What should we teach our children?

 

We teach them about love and service, obedience, discipline, setting priorities, patience, Jesus, baptism, prayer, forgiveness, faith, light, darkness, evil, Sabbath day, honest, integrity, repentance, authority, honor, respect, dignity – personal, self- worth – esteem and value, how to be humble and kindness, goodness, truth, honesty, hope, charity, perseverance, motivation, anger, the evils of self -gratification, envy, covetousness, pride and conceit, sincerity, joy, happiness, plan of salvation, outer darkness or Hell, Satan and his disciples, Jesus birth, death, resurrection, God’s will for us. These are just a few things we as Fathers can give guidance to our children, the list could go on and on.

Suffice it to say that we need to have knowledge, understanding and wisdom in these areas so that we can pattern our life first before we begin to train and instruct our children. 

If anyone lacks wisdom, pray for it and the father will provide it. James 1:5 – If any of you lack wisdom, he should ask God who gives generously to all who gives without finding fault and it will be given to him. If you are concerned or worry that you don’t have the knowledge you need remember to 1. pray continuously 1 Thessalonians 5:17 2. ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to direct and guide you in your training and instruction. Romans 8:16 – In the same way the spirit helps us in our weakness. We may not know what we ought to pray for, but the spirit intercedes on our behalf with groans that words cannot express. 

The Lord does not expect us to have all the answers, he does instruct us to live an obedient life and in doing so we will set a wonderful example for our children. It is important as a family to love and serve one another unconditionally without complaining or grumbling. Philippians 2:14 – Do everything without complaining or arguing, so that you may become blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation. 1 Corinthians 10:10 – And do not grumble, as some of them did and were killed by the destroying angel. 1 Peter 4:9, 10 – Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling. Each one should use the gifts he has received to serve others, do not be easily angered for Proverbs 29:22 – An angry man stirs up dissension and a hot tempered one commits many sins. We are called James 1:19 – Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.  

As a child yours is not to question why but to listen and obey your parents.  

We have to be very careful of what we say to one another, the Lord cautions us not to argue or to use our words in a manner which hurt someone else. James 1:26 – If anyone considers himself religious and yet does not keep a tight rein on his tongue, he deceives himself and his religion is worthless. Children are not to talk back to their parents, argue, complain or grumble.  

We are called to put the word of the Lord into action. James 1:22 – Do not merely listen to the word and so deceive yourself. Do what it says.  

We are called to read the bible. 2 Timothy 3:15-17 – You have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through Jesus Christ. All scriptures are God breathed and useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness. So that man may be equipped for every good work.  

And lastly fathers 1 Timothy 3:4 – He must manage his own family well and see that the children obey him with proper respect.  

Children are called to obedience to the word as well as adults. Deuteronomy 13:4 – It is the Lord your God you must follow and him you must revere. Keep his commandments and obey him, serve him and hold fast to him. 

Fathers are called to train and instruct their children in the ways of the Lord, children are called to honor, respect and obey their parents without complaining, grumbling or arguing. 

We are called to Deuteronomy 10:12, 13 – And now O Israel what does the Lord ask of you but to fear the Lord your God to walk in all his ways, to love him, to serve the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and to observe the Lords commands and decrees that I am giving you today for your own good.  

In the Old Testament when a child did not obey his father and mother, would not listen to them when they disciplined him or her, they were brought before the elders of the church and were stoned to death. Deuteronomy 21:18-22

“If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, ¹⁹ then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, ²⁰ and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ ²¹ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones. So you shall purge the evil from your midst, and all Israel shall hear, and fear.

So what about mothers?

What are her responsibilities to the child and the child to the mother?

Mothers

Isaiah 66:13 – As a mother comforts her child. Children Proverbs 1:8 – Listen my son to your father’s instruction and do not forsake your mother’s teachings. 

There is really not much in the scriptures relating to the duties of the mother specifically. 

However the Lord has called us to love and serve one another. 

Other passages on a Christian household are: 

Ephesians 4:31, 32 – Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another forgiving each other just as Christ forgave you.

It is not enough to tell our children to say they are sorry when the injury one another. It is equally important to request the injured party to pray for forgiveness for the other and tell them they are forgiven. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 – These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them in your children, talk about them when you sit at home, and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your house and on your gates. Mothers need to bring comfort to their children and children are to obey the teachings of their mothers. 

This is the second post in a six part series, tomorrows post will cover the topic of......

There is a big problem in America today – Absentee Fathers.

Fatherhood, Teaching our children, Motherhood, Absentee Fathers/Godless Fathers, The Love of the Lord, Doubt, Our choice of words one to another

 

The following is an excerpt from my book titled

 "As I was walking God was talking and this is what he said". 

This was a single days message and covers a variety of subjects including.....

Fatherhood

Teaching our Children

Motherhood

Absentee Fathers/Godless Fathers

Being equally yoked in marriage

The Love of the Lord

Doubt

Our choice of words one to another 

Several years ago I spent a great deal of time walking and as I walked I carried a notebook and a pen. I received what I know to be Devine inspiration from God. What you are about to read is what God would like us all to hear. I believe God gave me these words to write down so that I might share them with the world. God our Father in Heaven wants us all to know he Loves us and he also wants us all to know that Love is much more than never having to say you are sorry.  

Please take time to reflect on the words given to me by God our Father in Heaven. God has instructed me to tell you that he would like to ask each of you to take the time to read these multiple times until they really soak into your conscience. He knows that by doing this, you will change your life forever. You will also change the lives of everyone around you. 

Enjoy what God our Father in Heaven has provided me as a gift to you and to all those you know.

God Bless one and all.

Daddy I Love You

 

 

Why are fathers so important? 

If they are out of sight they are out of mind!  

What is faith? 

Faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. Hebrews 11:1 

Fathers on earth are required to provide the role model our children need in order to be able to help our children identify with our Father in Heaven. We cannot see our Father in Heaven, however we can have faith and believe he exists, that he did create the world, that we are made in his likeness, that we did send his Son to be crucified on the cross and that if we accept Jesus as our savior, obey the word of God, we will live eternally in his presence and the presence of his son Jesus Christ.  

Wouldn’t it be nice to see God in the flesh, have him talk with us, guide us, counsel us, hold us, love us, direct us, take care of our needs, comfort us when we are sick or in pain, feed, clothe and provide us drink. Wouldn’t that be nice if the good Lord could come down to earth and be our Dad? Well he is on earth and he dwells in our earthly Fathers.

The Fifth Commandment Exodus 20:10 – reads Honor your father and your mother, so that you may live in the land the Lord your God is giving you.  

Honor – esteem respect. Recognition or distinction. A person of superior status.  

Esteem – to regard with respect, prize. High regard.

Respect – to feel or show deferential regard for, esteem. To avoid violation or interference. To relate to, concern. Deferential regard, esteem. Willingness to show consideration or appreciation. 

Consideration – a careful deliberation. Something to be considered in making a decision or judgment. Mutual regard for others.  

Appreciation – to recognize the value or quality of, to value highly, to be aware of, realize. To feel gratitude for, to increase in value or price.  

Regard – to look at closely, watch. To look upon, consider. Look, gaze. Careful attention, heed. Respect, affection or esteem.  

Why should we show honor to our parents on earth? If we cannot, are not willing to, ignore, tune out or don’t listen to, neglect, if we lack respect, esteem, regard, appreciation for our earthly parents that we see with our eyes and hear with our ears, and in who we depend on to care for us especially when we are little. If we don’t honor our earthly parents, we most certainly will not honor our heavenly parent. 

Hebrews 13:17 – Obey your leaders and submit to authority. Ephesians 6:1-3 – Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother which is the first commandment with a promise, that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on earth.  

Children must be willing to submit to authority.  

Submit – to surrender to the authority, discretion or will of another. To commit to the decision, consideration, or judgment of another. To offer as a suggestion or opinion. To acquiesce.  

Whenever children lack respect, honor, esteem, appreciation, love for their earthly parents, they will most assuredly lack these same qualities for their Heavenly Father. Children mirror their relationship with their Heavenly Father through their actions with those in authority over them such as their earthly Father or teachers. If they are not willing to submit themselves to their earthly Fathers; listen, obey and honor them, how are they going to learn to submit themselves to their Heavenly Father? 

Fathers teach your children well 

Teach them to love and serve the Lord and to respect, honor, revere our Lord in heaven. If you desire your children to have respect and honor for you, teach them first to show respect and honor for the Lord. Ephesians 6:4 – Fathers do not exasperate your children, instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.  

Exasperate – to make angry or frustrated, irritated. 

When children lack respect or honor or esteem it is a reflection of the lack of teaching these traits to the children by the father. When children reach the age of 8 and are baptized and receive the gift if the Holy Spirit they are then held accountable for their sins. If they sin and continue to sin, their eyes and ears will be closed to the voice of the Lord, they will not be able to hear the counsel of the Holy Spirit and they will begin and remain in darkness, all alone, cut off from the love of the Lord. They are then left to their own decision making capability which leads to pain, misery and suffering. 

Is that what you want for your offspring?  

A life filled with pain, misery and suffering, confusion, isolation, abandonment. Do you want for them to live on the Island of Isolation, separated from God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit? Do you want them to be led by the evil influences of the world and Satan? Do you wish upon them to live a life filled with fear, uncertainty and doubt being tossed to and fro by the lies of men? Do you wish upon them to never feel worthy of love, respect, honor or appreciation? Do you want them to feel a low self-esteem, appreciation and worth? If you do keep on ignoring your responsibility and the Lords command to teach and instruct your children about the Word of God. 

Fathers, it all starts and ends with you!  

Not your wife, not the church, not their soccer coach or any other sports coach. No the responsibility for teaching and instructing your children rests squarely on your shoulders.  

Colossians 3:21 – Fathers do not embitter your children or they will become discouraged. 

Embitter – to make bitter, to arouse bitter feelings.  

Bitter – causing or manifesting sharp physical or mental pain, or discomfort, harsh. Caused by or exhibiting strong animosity. Marked by rancor or disappointment.  

What is the second greatest commandment given to us by Jesus? 

Matthew 22:39 – Love your neighbor as yourself. Are our children our neighbor?  

Neighbor – one who lives near or adjacent to another, a fellow human being. To live or be located close by.  

Fellow – an equal or peer. Our children are not only our children and the Lord has asked us to love them as we love our self. 

In Ephesians 6:4 – we see that we are to train and instruct about the Lord.  

Train – an orderly series of related thoughts or events, sequence. To instruct or condition to some manner of behavior or performance. To make proficient through special instruction and drill. To cause to grow in or take on a desired shape or source. To direct, aim. 

Instruct – to impart knowledge or skill, teach. To direct, order.  

Teach – to communicate knowledge or skill. To provide instruction in. To give insight by example or experience.  

Fathers our role is laid out before us. In order for us to train, instruct and teach our children we must first have knowledge, understanding and wisdom and that comes from loving and serving the Lord, obeying his commands and living a life of obedience to the word of the Lord.  

Hebrews 8:10, 11 – explains what the Lord is willing to do. This is the new covenant I will make with the house of Israel after that time declares the Lord, I will put my laws in their minds, and write them in their hearts. I will be their God and they will be my people. No longer will a man teach his neighbor, or a man his brother, say “Know the Lord,” because they will know me from the least of them to the greatest. 

Our children know the Lord, we need to train and instruct them to walk in obedience to the Lord. Since we are responsible for them from birth it is our duty to help them see and hear clearly the voice of the Lord. It is our job to set the example, to be the role model, to pattern our own life in obedience so that our children will follow.  

Check back tomorrow for part 2 in this 6 post series, What do we teach our children.