Being equally yoked in Marriage

The following is an excerpt from my book titled 

 "As I was walking God was talking and this is what he said".  

This is the fourth post in a 6 part series covering the following topics.... 

Fatherhood (posted on December 15)

Teaching our Children (December 16)

Motherhood (December 16)

Absentee Fathers/Godless Fathers (December 17)

Being equally yoked in marriage (todays post)

The Love of the Lord

Doubt

Our choice of words one to another  

Several years ago I spent a great deal of time walking and as I walked I carried a notebook and a pen. I received what I know to be Devine inspiration from God. What you are about to read is what God would like us all to hear. I believe God gave me these words to write down so that I might share them with the world. God our Father in Heaven wants us all to know he Loves us and he also wants us all to know that Love is much more than never having to say you are sorry.  

Please take time to reflect on the words given to me by God our Father in Heaven. God has instructed me to tell you that he would like to ask each of you to take the time to read these multiple times until they really soak into your conscience. He knows that by doing this, you will change your life forever. You will also change the lives of everyone around you. 

Enjoy what God our Father in Heaven has provided me as a gift to you and to all those you know.

 

God Bless one and all.  

Single women, choose a man who loves and serves the Lord. 

If you want your children to grow up loving and obeying the Lord, choose a mate who first lives this and secondly is ready willing and able to take on the responsibility.  

Women choose your men wisely.  

Take notice if he prays continuously, walks in obedience to the Lord, loves and serves unconditionally, is humble, motivated, driven to succeed. Stay away from anyone who does not know the Lord or is a part time follower. 

Do not be unequally yoked. 

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 – Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?  

Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?  

What harmony is there between Christ and Belial?  

What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?  

People who do not share a common religion have varying views and opinions on religion and on raising children.  

How can a father who is an unbeliever teach a child how to believe?  

How can a mother who is a believer be both the comforter and instructor?   

What is the role of the father?  

One of the parents will be living in the light, the other may be living  in darkness. If the one who lives with the light is not strong they will be swayed in the darkness. It is easier not to obey, to follow the Lord, Pray, not attend church or tithe or participate in church related activities. Sure it is easier, but does it bring salvation? Happiness? Peace? Joy? It may bring momentary pleasure, but it will never bring lasting joy or salvation.   

The Lord specifically states, do not be unequally yoked. 

Do not marry an unbeliever!  

If you are married to an unbeliever or if you convert, are baptized and lead an obedient life – Pray for your spouse. Set the example, actions in this case speak much more than words. Keep praying for your spouse. Love your spouse, forgive your spouse, encourage your spouse to let you grow in your faith in the Lord.   

Remember “Happy Spouse Happy House.” 

Avoid the conflict, interfaith marriages does not lead you or your children to heaven!   

It is nearly impossible to carry on your faith in the Lord unencumbered by your spouse. They will come to despise the time you spend praying, reading and attending church. They will soon resent you and withdraw their love for you.  

When they do this you will feel unloved, abandoned, lonely, unwanted, isolated, in fear, confused, concerned, and unsure of yourself and the relationship. It is better to do what the Lord commands.   

Do not be unequally yoked, marry someone with your exact same belief; each of you must be equal in your desire to love and serve the Lord and one another.  

It is one thing to say you are a particular religion; it is another to practice your religion.  

The best marriage is between two people who love and serve the Lord and one another equally.   

Praise to you Lord Jesus Christ. Thank you for this insight and wisdom. I love you Lord.  

Do you have feelings of insecurity in a marriage? 

Feelings of not being loved by your spouse?  

When the question whether or not you love them or they tell you they do not feel as though you love them, what are they really telling you?  

You do not love me in a manner which satisfies my need for lack or deficit of or void.   

When a person says I do not feel as though you love me, what they are attempting to say is you don’t love me so as to fulfill my need for love or you are loving me in a manner which does not satisfy me.  

They may have issues with insecurity, low self-esteem or self-worth or even self-respect and not be willing to accept that. In fact they may believe they have great self-esteem, respect etc. and the problem solely exists with you. You do not love me the way I want to feel or need to feel loved.   

First of all the Lord loves us all equally! 

We may not see that or even understand, we may be living in sin.   

Secondly we must first fully accept our self and love our self before we can start to receive love from others. If we don’t love our self, fully accept our self, feel the love the Lord has for us, no one will love us the way we want to be loved.   

Insecure – not adequately protected or guarded, unsafe. Unstable. Not self-confident.   

Confident – reliance or trust. A trusting relationship. A feeling of self-assurance.   

What do you say to someone when they question whether or not you love them? Do you tell them you love them? Will that satisfy their hunger or need? Probably not. 

Do you ask them how they would like to be loved? What would make them happy? What would satisfy their hunger to be loved? Probably not, they probably don’t know what would bring them happiness, joy and peace and therefore love or a feeling of being loved.  

I believe that when someone tells you this, it is a cry for help. Please, I am telling you I don’t feel loved by you anymore. I suggest getting down on your knees together and praying about those feelings, offering them up to the Lord. Your willingness to pray about it is a first step in setting the record straight. No amount of words will tell, someone you love them, they want to feel it, experience it, see some action behind your words. Women desire to be romanced. My actions will speak louder than my words. 

Tomorrows post will discuss the topic of doubt, which is the opposite of Faith.   

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